Book review: “Woke up - find the life that makes you happy” by Angelika Gulder
The author writes: “I had largely realized all my previous dreams, but no new ones were in sight. (...) I felt like I was in a vacuum, a transition, and felt that something completely new was about to start, but I had no idea what. Everything that had otherwise helped me to clarify myself and find my goals no longer seemed to work. That's why I developed a new “navigator”: the lifelong navigator. ”
The psychologist Angelika Gulder wants to inspire with “Awakened” to realize her own potential and sees the life dreams of people as a clue to find this way to yourself. She asks: "Do you know its essence and its purpose?" The book is also suitable for people who live their full potential, but especially for those who have questions and answers, which way they should take next.
The book is divided into three parts: "The dreams and life" shows what life dreams are, what differentiates night dreams from day dreams, how dreams expand into visions, what the bulb model of personality means and how people can "wake up", that is develop dormant potential in them.
The second part is about living these dreams. In doing so, she clarifies right from the start that failure is inevitable when we try to make our dreams a reality, and that this failure is important because the part of our ideas that can be realized crystallizes out.
She then designs a "lifelong navigator". For this, "good" convictions are important first. People should be aware of their own attitudes and beliefs and reflect that conscious desires and unconscious beliefs can conflict.
Those who want to find and live their dreams can be prevented by such unconscious "programs". Only those who know this unconscious can break through automatic reaction patterns in concrete situations.
Guiding ideas and beliefs
Beliefs are guiding ideas, attitudes and convictions, which we believed to be true, based on experiences in the first years of life, and which we would have adopted from parents, teachers, siblings and others.
Although they are important because we can use them to quickly classify information, they also acted as self-fulfilling prophecies: "When we believe something, we act as if what we believe is true." This results in a vicious cycle of self-affirmation . Beliefs would also generalize.
They are useful because they help us construct our reality and guide us in life. But the question is whether the corresponding belief helps or hinders us.
Beliefs such as "I can achieve anything" are supportive, while restrictions such as "Shoemaker stay with your groin" are limiting. If we were convinced that we would not be able to achieve something anyway, we would put less strength and self-confidence into the goals and see our beliefs confirmed even with small obstacles.
Many inner convictions are so deeply rooted in us that we are not at all clear about them. We could recognize these hidden beliefs by paying attention to our own thoughts and words.
In all parts, it involves readers to locate themselves here with answers to questions. Here are the answers to questions such as "life dreams are ...", "my mother said about dreams ...". They should look at these answers calmly and ask whether they are supportive or restrictive beliefs. The author, however, warns against simply writing down positive sentences and lulling yourself with them.
In the “onion model” she locates the “true essence” of the personality in the “middle of the personality”. Our full potential awaits us here. This had to be peeled out layer by layer.
Navigator's lifelong dream
This sub-chapter is about looking back and locating yourself in terms of where we come from and where we are going, right down to our family of origin and how it shaped us. You could pay attention to the unfulfilled life dreams your parents had, because sometimes it would be necessary to fulfill a life dream of the parents before they start their own.
After this review, take a look at where you are today and what your relationship with the family is like today; the injured inner child would have to make peace with the parents.
Gulder sets himself apart from the countless "positive thinking" guides who, with brainwashing, claim that people only have to condition themselves positively in order to lead a successful and happy life - which often plunges the victims of this esotericism into psychosocial misery because they commit themselves blame themselves for making social reality look different.
The psychologist, however, sheds light on where life dreams come from, whether and which dreams can actually be implemented in specific reality and which cannot. She writes close to practice and close to life.
Gulder then presents seven dream fields on which people could make their dream come true: dream job, prince-fairy-tale prince and frog prince, “Can't do it, don't give it”, “want-to-have dreams”, “my body and enlightenment”, and “think big” - So dream job, dream partner, dream friends, dream experiences, dream possession, dream body and dreams for the world.
In the dream dream navigator, the "dreamers" should look into the past with the seven topics, see what the present looks like and how they imagine the future, find and implement their creativity in their "personality core". That would not be possible without risks.
Although Gulder refers to psychological categories such as the unconscious, he cheerfully mixes them with esoteric fictions without a social or neuropsychological basis - for example "our essence, which contains our entire potential and whose realization is the meaning and task of our life", and which we unconsciously covered with many protective layers in the first half of our life and thus "lost contact with our true self".
The real self?
This "search for the true self" is standard in seminars on the psychomarket from "prehistoric therapy" to "healing with angels", but based on memory research it turns out to be a trap: memories are reconstructions, depending on the emotions and the circumstances remembering, and the autobiographical memory itself intervenes in the stored memories and changes them to adapt them to the present.
In other words, there is no "true self" that hides in a mystical depth because the image of this "self" is constantly changing in the brain itself.
In this respect, Ms. Gulder provides cornerstones for people who want to reorient themselves, but combines them with unsustainable myths. At the latest in the last chapters Dream-Plan-Do she leaves a roughly "socio-psychologically" outlined frame and goes over to esoteric fairy tales like said "essence core", which embodies "pure consciousness", to "thoughts, vibrations and resonance", " Energy Shift ”and“ Orders from the Universe ”.
This is a shame, because the "Life Dream Navigator" itself is well-thought-out as a coordinate system to structure your life better and achieve your own goals, and it can also be put into practice. (Dr. Utz Anhalt)
Author and source information
This text corresponds to the specifications of the medical literature, medical guidelines and current studies and has been checked by medical doctors.
Dr. phil. Utz Anhalt, Barbara Schindewolf-Lensch
- Angelika Gulder: Wake up !: Find the life that makes you happy, Campus Verlag, 2nd revised and redesigned edition, 2017